Sunday, January 28, 2007
Only Child and Feminism, Take 2...
On Friday, Daphne, contributor Amy Richards, and I were guests on "The Judith Warner Show" (XM radio). I'm a fan of Judith's book, Perfect Madness, and many of her feminist inklings dovetail with mine. Things I wished I had said but did not have a chance to on the air:
In the 1970s, the mother who chose to have 'only one' was sometimes stigmatized for selfishly privileging her desire to have a career over her desire to raise a brood. I wonder how the stigma Boomer women may have felt different from that experienced by today's mother-of-one. *Is* there a strong stigma today, and if so, is it perhaps differently inflected? Parent friends who ask us about our experience as onlies often seem so anxious - is this related, I wonder, to the intensive parenting Judith writes about so eloquently in her book? That is, the imperative to do-what's-best-for-your-kid at the expense of personal fulfillment, and the return of a new kind of feminine mystique.
I'd be curious to hear what others think.
PS. Check out Daphne's new website!